Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Power through People

Have you come across a naturally friendly person? Put him in a room of strangers and he will be a friend to almost everyone in no time!

We call such individual a people-person. He is unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

A socially empowered person achieves greatness because of the people who catapult him to success. He earns the trust and all-out support of people whom he had helped before. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him. All because he knows how to maximize his social potential!

If you develop social skills, you will achieve self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is similar to doing a general overhaul in your life. This will turn your self into a happier and more successful person. If you can be one of those persons, then there wouldn’t be any reason why you will not succeed. You just have to know how to start. Here are some steps:

1. Be genuine.
Be genuinely nice and interested in people. Hypocrisy will just bring you down. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.
To earn the love and trust of other people, you must listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out. Listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters for it does. You earn brownie points when they find out that there is a confidante in you.

3. Laugh aloud.
You need not force yourself to laugh at every joke cracked by someone. This means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

4. Don't forget yourself.
While fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself and eventually allow everyone to always push you around. Remember to love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not treat you like a doormat.

5. Do random acts of kindness.
You don't have to be a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters most and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise “take care” card or helping an elderly cross the street. When we were in kindergarten, kindness was taught to us. Now is the time to revive the act of doing good deeds and this time, let these acts stay for good.

6. Contact your old friends.
It is sad how some friendships simply wither and end but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook. Find great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop your personality.
Are you grouchy, grumpy, and generally morose? Whoa! You can't go through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. Really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?

8. Be confident.
Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident. Exude confidence, not arrogance.

9. Practice control.
When you feel angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of the situation and transform your anger into something more productive and positive.

10. Nurture your relationships.
Relationships with your family, friends, and significant others are too precious to be neglected whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter most are close to you.

In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. Focus on creating win-win situations to achieve self-empowerment!

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